Weight Issues

People have been asking, and we’re working on developing a weight loss bioessence. It’s not there yet, gonna be awhile, but believe me, we'd like a new magic potion for this. While you wait, you can start working on the things that are more specific to just you. Obviously there's comfort eating, and stress eating, but I wanted to dig into less talked about things.

Weight, from an emotional standpoint, is almost always protective. That can take on a myriad of forms.  The obvious example is someone who was sexually abused, packing on the pounds to attract less attention or be less desirable. Obviously, that is not every overweight person, but the question should stand. Why is it safer for me to be fat? What is it protecting me from? 

You can sit with this question for a minute, - and you should, but I’ll add some ideas you can consider as well.  

Lack

There’s a physical principle where we store food as fat when we eat too few calories for an extended period of time. The same holds on an emotional level. If you are in scarcity mentality, even though there’s plenty to eat, you might hoard fat instead of or in addition to things. (If anybody has lost weight taking Prosper, I’d love to hear about it.)

Lack can be actual poverty circumstances where there wasn’t enough food; the idea that one day there might not be enough (lots of trauma being drummed up about this in the last couple years) or even a circumstance like abandonment. Babies are heavily dependent on mamas for food, and real or perceived abandonment can activate food storage because of unpredictability or broken trust. If you were a baby left to “cry it out” or your caregiver was otherwise occupied with things other than your nourishment, you probably felt the need to activate some survival skills. I realize this sounds dramatic, but that’s how we are at that age when incapable of feeding ourselves. Your stress can switch on fat storing. As an adult, feeling alone, or like only you can take care of you brings you back into those old ways. 

What are the things that run through your head in relation to food? “Better eat now cause you don’t know when your next meal will be.” That’s an occasional one of mine that has to do more with time scarcity or failure to create a schedule than food itself. 

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Fat physically protects our organs and may subconsciously be put on to protect against blows, abuse, insults, criticism and assault. `

Sense of Self

Obviously low self esteem is not helpful, but food can also be a way of self sabotage. 

Once I had a disturbing thought that came up from a soul fragment that said “I don’t deserve food.” You can bet I immediately cleared my schedule and worked on that belief as a priority because as long as that’s there, self sabotage is going to be going on. Obviously I eat plenty, but what it was saying is I don’t deserve nourishment, which, you can eat a lot of non-nourishing food. There was possibly even an assimilation problem or digestive disturbance due to this belief. 

My transparency is not for your entertainment so much as an example to go deep and see what’s keeping you at a certain weight. There’s a point where if you manage to go below it, you gain it right back, correct? What’s holding you there? We’ve heard all the physical reasons, we’ve learned all the tricks to manipulate our bodies, but we’re not going to outwit our subconscious. 

So if you’re looking forward to a weight loss bioessence, I say do the ground work here first. Not dealing with your emotions means anything else is probably a waste of time and money. We do take on some of this in the Body Coaching book.