Balancing Deep Healing With Your Daily Needs

Sooner or later, you're going to run into this problem. You know you need to address your deep wounds, but you're also wanting to deal with your current life challenges, or just get a boost for whatever you're trying to do that day. And since you can only take so many flowers at one time, which goal do you sacrifice, or do you just skip around depending on what's most urgent each day? In this blog post we'll explore a work-around, but first, some particulars so you can make informed choices.

Changing It Up Day By Day

Most people skip around. Here's the problem with that tactic.  Childhood wounds don't go away in a couple days on an essence the way your less entrained moods do. Sure, you might feel the shift, but it's not a sustainable one. Soon, you'll get triggered again and be right back on that essence until you get patched up enough to move on to something else. 

This can be a form of subconscious avoidance. 

A general rule of thumb is that you need a month on an essence for every year you've lived with the negative state that you're trying to correct. This is not set in stone, does not take into account other types of work you've done on the issue. So, if you do an essence for a few weeks for an issue you've had since you can remember, and you're off to the next interesting blend, then you haven't got a permanent fix, and you'll be circling back around. 

The Plan Was Deep Healing , But...

In many cases, life throws us curve balls, and you've gotta do what you gotta do. One nice thing about your childhood stuff is that you've got all kinds of coping mechanisms up your sleeve. You've learned how to live with it, so it's easy to put that on the back-burner and deal with the immediate crisis that feels very acute. That is not wrong. But it will undermine progress in other areas. 

Keeping It Surface Level

This isn't wrong either. Working on the deep stuff is where your major results will be. Childhood trauma is an underpinning to lots of issues, coping mechanisms, physical illness and self-sabotage. Everybody should take this on at some point, but nothing says you have to any time soon. It's not always fun to fix and always has the potential of getting worse before better, so it's good to pick your timing with that stuff. 

You're more likely to have a healing crisis early on when you go deep, and you don't want one of those during mission-critical times. Starting a new job or being overly stressed by any circumstance is not the time to add to your load. You can start healing when things are on an even keel. Once you've gotten through the first couple weeks, you should be golden, and it's just a matter of follow through. 

In the meantime, essences that help you with the here and now stuff are great. 

Why Can't I Just Take Two (or more) Blends?

The reason you want to keep your essence numbers low is because you can confuse or overwhelm your system, you're more likely to have a healing crisis, and because you can get diminishing returns. More isn't usually better. Overhauling everything at once is rarely a wise idea.

How low is low? We try to stay around seven essences (essences, so one blend) at a time. This is not a magic number, it's just an average of what somebody can handle. Your amount may be more or less. If you ask me if you can take this blend and that blend together, I won't know. I'm not you. Sorry.

You can experiment, but successful experimentation means having a control. Meaning you know what the results you should be getting feel like with one, so that you will know if your results are diminished or really bad when adding another. Don't just start two at the same time.

The Work-Around

It involves delving into the individual essences and making yourself two little blends. Or one little blend and having some individuals that you can switch up daily depending on what's going on. You do one blend for your deep issue that you're working on, containing 2-4 essences that address that, and consider that your semi-permanent thing you take every day. Then you have another blend of 2-4 essences that help you with your more surface level stuff. Motivation, focus, stress, eating right etc. Those can be rotated in and out depending on current needs, while you stay on your long term plan. 

Working with the individual stock strength essences vs Bouquet Blends is admittedly more mess, and upfront expense, but if you're really into essences and are going to use them for the long haul, then it's an investment. You'll always have a custom blend. If you'd like to learn to mix your own blends, I have a class here. 

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