The more I talk to people about soul fragments, the more I become aware of the misconceptions floating around. These are serious misconceptions that keep people from healing, not innocent little white lies. A fragment is that part of you that's been locked away, inaccessible to healing, at least to the usual methods. When we experience a traumatizing event, part of our coping strategy is to wall off a little piece of ourselves in order to contain that emotion. We then go on with life.
Here, I'll cover a few basics of soul fragments but for a more in-depth look check out my new book Broken to Whole: Inner Healing for the Fragmented Soul. Five other authors worked on the book with me to put together a healing guide to understanding soul fragments and how to begin your healing journey with them. We don't just beat the drum for repentance and forgiveness although those are beneficial and necessary. Instead, we have made every effort to tell you something you don't know so that you can fill in your missing pieces. You can learn quite a bit just looking at the free sample or the "look inside" feature of our Amazon listing.
8 Myths About Soul Fragments
1. You have to be really messed up to have them.
Everybody has fragments, because everybody has gone through some crap. Your crap might be bigger than my crap, but my crap still hurt. Fragmentation exists on a spectrum. You can have little pieces of your soul that splinter off and carry an emotion or memory that you didn't know how to cope with at the age you were, and at the other end of the spectrum you can split and have multiple alters that are well-developed parts with their own personalities, like in Dissociative Identity Disorder, as well as everything in between. Having fragments doesn't mean that you will ever dissociate, although it usually means you'll overreact in certain circumstances.
2. You need to be able to classify it as either a fragment or an alter.
As mentioned, emotional trauma is on a spectrum. Sometimes it's an obvious alter, has a well-developed personality, and sometimes it's not so easy to know. For the tools in our book, you don't need to differentiate.
3. They're demons.
Brace yourself. Just because you are hearing a negative voice or having a bad feeling, does not automatically mean it's a demon. If there's a wound in your past, it could very well be a fragment that's crying out, over-reacting or angry. If your deliverance isn't "taking" it's probably because you can't cast out a part of yourself.
4. They are spooky and scary.
No, they're more like abused and hurting inner children. Go get them and love them back to wholeness. They've been carrying all the pain and now that you are stronger, you can help.
5. You can just pray a little blanket prayer, have faith and it's all good.
You probably will be able to get some of the fragments that were ready to integrate anyway by doing someone's prayer template, but the downside is that you're minimizing the other parts' pain, marginalizing their voices and not actually addressing the wounds.
6. You need a psychotherapist, shaman or minister.
If you can get professional help, do it. However, there's quite a bit you can do on your own, which will save appointment time and money. You're not going to be able to take it all on by yourself, we all have our blind spots, but start the process anyway. Learn all you can and be patient with yourself.
7. Fragments aren't biblical.
I'm going to give you a little excerpt my friend Diane wrote in our book.
I started praying and seeking the Lord about it, and he showed me the scriptures about double-mindedness in James 1:8 which says, "being a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.” I looked up ‘double minded,’ and the root of ‘minded’ is ‘psyche,’ which means soul. ‘Double’ means twice, so being double minded means you have two souls. Hmmm . . . how can that be? Two souls?
The Lord showed me that what I had been taught before about double-mindedness—one foot in him, one foot in the world—was not correct. ‘Double-mindedness’ means two souls or two minds. What I felt the Lord was revealing to me was that many people have a part or parts of their soul that was stuck in trauma while they were a child. This fractured-off part of ourselves speaks within us—an internal voice that wants its own way.
-Diane Moyer, Broken to Whole: Inner Healing for the Fragmented Soul
8. You have to relive the pain in order to heal.
When you work with fragments in the spirit realm, like we demonstrate in our book, there is usually no reliving or remembering. However, my rule of thumb has been that if a memory surfaces, it's because it needed to be consciously addressed.
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